This article, 10 things about dating younger guy, really helps me how I feel about my boyfriend. I don’t really get a lot of ignorant questions on why I’m dating a guy who’s younger than me by 3 years. My original dating gap policy didn’t include a guy three years younger. If I were to date someone younger than me, the max is two years. Nothing more. Anything below 2 years is too young. That’s how I was to my boyfriend when I first met him. I was 23 and he was 19 going to 20. Even though he’s legal, I saw him rather as a baby than a grown man. Things kinda took a turn when I started to hang around him.
Like any other guy friend, we talk about stuff. We connected on a certain level. But this particular guy, I fell in love and became his girlfriend. People around me support my relationship. Most say “if you like him, then it’s cool.” However, my mother didn’t seem to take my relationship serious. She believes an older guy is more mature. Her advice is to have fun with the current boyfriend. When an older guy comes along, dump him and go for the other. Inside, I feel that it is a terrible dating advice. It is also very ignorant. While dating my boyfriend, I learned no matter how old the guy is, compatibility is more important than age. My boyfriend is very mature for his age. We’re very compatible for each other.
I don’t think there is a much difference between us. The biggest concern from my mother is that she fears that he wouldn’t be able to provide as a future husband. I do have big goals in my life. One of them is marriage and kids. I don’t know the exact age I have in mind to marry. But I do know I want that in my life. My mother gets so stingy about the age difference. Because I’m near the age closer to marriage, she once in a while would tell me to dump the guy if an older guy comes around. At first, I let it bother me. I kept asking myself, “What if she’s right?” What if my boyfriend and I date too long and it’ll be too late for me? What if he can’t provide what’s best for me? But then, I start to realize and I should have said “Fuck this”.
It’s my relationship. If I’m happy, then that’s all it matters. In my experience, I had talked/dated guys my age. Most of them have the money and education. However, they didn’t have the strong mentality of being in a serious relationship. Or they don’t want one in general due to their past. I’m fine with not being with them. I just hate the phrase, “I’m not ready for a relationship, but I’m still willing to get to know you better“. It’s an automatic bullshit to creating lies. Like what the heck you want? I’m here to be in a commitment. That is my goal. I don’t need to be messed around for your pleasure. And hey, if an older guy wants to date a younger girl, then why can’t us older women do the same for younger guy? It’s such a double standard. Love doesn’t have a number, but there’s a limit.
I think the point is I should go on with my life. Because there is a lot of seriousness in my relationship with boyfriend. I mean, he just recently passed the “Meeting Grandparents” stage. Well, technically he only met my paternal grandmother, who’s the only living and/or non-Alzheimer’s grandparent. Both of my grandfathers are dead. My maternal grandmother is unable to detect in meeting new people. At least he met my paternal one. Thank God, too. It’s important to me how my grandmother feels about my boyfriend. Luckily, she approves him like no tomorrow. I’m very happy about my relationship. I hope things go beyond the years. Maybe this is the new beginning to a future for both of us. Regardless of what my mother thinks, I should just keep around the boyfriend. He’s a keeper.