I got a mini rant ahead. Be aware of the angry stuff soon. I’m typing from my iPad because my MacBook Pro became an old lady. It’s lagging and going super slow. I can’t even click on an icon without waiting for a long time. It’s probably a sign of retirement since I’ve had it for almost 7 years. This happened after I got home from Vegas. My Mom’s sister in law decide to book a Las Vegas trip a couple months back. It’s a nice getaway before finals; although I didn’t do much because it’s a city of booze and strippers. But it’s okay. I had an okay trip. Anyway, I want to talk about money. So last year, my brother’s service coordinator offered me a caregiver job. It’s a job where you are take care of disability or seniors.
I immediately took the job offering and made easy $100 each month. It’s not much, but it’s still something. I have enough to pay for my basic needs. However, it really bugged when my mother demands to see how much I have in my account before I even get to say anything. My mother has been a housewife for 20 years. She never worked a day in her life. I like to think my dad spoils her the most since she has access to his money as his account is joint. The quote “my money is your money” is kinda off. I only believe that is true when both partners have a job. If both are working, then it’s acceptable to say my money is also yours because you’re in a partnership.
When it comes to your kids being independent, I don’t think you own their account. My check mails to my house once a month. Every time I get it, my mother has to know everything. If I don’t, she sees it as disrespect and says it’s not my money. I feel it’s a bit of stupidity. You don’t own my account. I work hard for that money, therefore the money isn’t yours to control. She almost want to put her name into my account. Fortunately, the clerk said no. She was mad for that. I personally don’t have a say when it comes to getting the money. Everything has to be in her hands before being used. For her, she didn’t have to ask my dad for the money because she feels she has to freedom to use it whenever she likes. She buys luxury stuff without informing my father. I feel it’s unfair. If I ever marry and my husband has his own money, I won’t control his account. We should get separate accounts in case. However, I won’t mind taking care of him if he wants to go back to school. I will certainly pay for him if the need is important. If it’s luxury gifts, then no.