I don’t know what’s the obsession of a younger girl dating an older guy, but fuck this bullshit. For the past 6 months, my mother consistently brings up our age difference between me and my boyfriend. She feels that because I’m older than him, the relationship is inappropriate. I’m 24 years old. I mention how my mother constantly reminds me that I should be thinking about marriage. Because I’m getting closer to the appropriate age of marriage. My boyfriend, however, isn’t there yet. She fears that we’re not going to be on the same page. After the luncheon, she misunderstood his quiet behavior as a jerk move. My boyfriend was a bit nervous and shy to interact with my mother and grandmother during lunch.
It’s an understanding to me. I know my boyfriend for almost a year. He’s not a jerk. But to my mother who hardly interacts with him automatically thinks he’s an ass. She literally compared him with my cousin’s boyfriend. She didn’t even interact with my cousin’s boyfriend and thinks he’s a much nicer boyfriend than mine. I am utterly repulsive towards my mother’s comments. Since 6 months ago, my mother never shuts up about me dating a younger guy. To her, a younger guy is immature and an ass. She even questions me why I don’t like older guys. It’s not that I don’t. I have talked/dated older guys. Most of the time, it didn’t work out.
Why? Because I don’t have chemistry with them. Nor do they want a serious relationship. Plus my second ex, Greg, whom cheated on me, is older than me by two years. Our relationship was shit. In my personal experience, I haven’t come across any guys my age that are mature and stable enough to be in a relationship. My old dating policy on younger men used to be at a limit of two years apart. Three years was already too young for me. I used to think that. But ever since I met boyfriend, I was heads over heels for him. I fell in love with my boyfriend because not only our personality clicks. But also he treats me like a queen. He sees me as beautiful woman when it comes to making love with each other.
There may be times where I fought with my boyfriend and I want to punch him. In the end, I still love the guy. No one is perfect. It’s just sad that my mother doesn’t really see the man in him. You’re probably questioning if I had defend for my boyfriend and explain his behavior. I didn’t. “How could you?” “You’re his girlfriend!” I would defend for my boyfriend. But however, I don’t want to cause drama with my mother. She is stubborn as an ox. Because of a misunderstanding, she wouldn’t give him another try. Therefore, my relationship with him must slowly discontinue. If I don’t and report to her that he treats me like shit, I can’t come crying to her.
If my boyfriend treats me like shit, he would’ve done so long time ago. I wouldn’t be this attracted to him if anything. I’m sorry, but dating this guy for a year really tells me that he’ll be in my life for quite sometime.